Date Night Stories: I Lost My Virginity in Hangzhou
Date Night Stories
China daters share their experiences dating in China: first dates, worst dates, relationships, break ups, and everything in between.
Nasser has been an English teacher in China since September 2017. His first 6 months were in Weihai, then he spent more than two years in Jinan. Now he has been in Dalian for more than 5 months.
I arrived in China 10 days before my 36th birthday and I was still a virgin.
I consider myself a healthy heterosexual, so living asexually in my twenties and early thirties seems insane, especially considering I went to college in Las Vegas and lived in Sin City for a decade.
Let me repeat: I lived in sin city for a goddamn decade from 2000 to 2010 and never had sex.
Seriously, how the fuck did I not.
During that decade, I got between 10 and 20 lap dances at strip clubs, and many massages, but only one with happy ending.
Living celibate wasn’t by choice, and now I wonder if it was part of God’s great plan for me to inspire people, or just make people laugh at the absurdity of an asexual lifestyle *laughs*
Many people are unaware that Las Vegas has the most churches per capita than any city in America. Literally every street corner has a strip club next to a church.
Obviously, I’m exaggerating just a little, but I really felt faith while attending Christian churches in Vegas. When not studying and after graduating, I spent thousands of hours going to the gym to play basketball or attend sporting events. Next I taught bikram yoga for a year in Indonesia.
Fast forward to living in Jinan, China in 2018.
At a dance studio after a pole dance class, I met a Chinese girl named Trish.
Actually, I had seen her about 5 times before and never planned to introduce myself, but she took the initiative to break the ice. We exchanged WeChats and became friends in real life for a few weeks.
I didn’t see her for almost a month, but then we had dinner one night, and afterwards we went to her apartment. We just chatted for an hour, and went to sleep in same bed, but nothing happened.
A few days later Trish graduated from college and was planning to go to Dalian for her Master’s degree. She still had a month before classes started, and she wanted to spend time with me, so we hung out many more times.
Trish suggested we go to Mount Tai the next day, so we traveled together there. At that point we hadn’t even kissed, and so I promised her at the top I would initiate our first kiss at sunrise.
Keep in mind, up to this point we had been sleeping in same bed and I was sleeping naked. Looking back now I cannot comprehend how we didn’t have sex sooner.
It took us less than 5 hours to reach the top, and when sunrise came, I didn’t kiss her.
We took the cable car down and she was disappointed. A few minutes before reaching bottom of mountain, she suddenly kissed me and said “Was that so hard?”
Two or three days later we went to Hangzhou. We checked into a hostel at West Lake and it was hotter than hell in July. We walked for an hour then returned to room and started making out on the bed.
Then suddenly started having sex. During the next two weeks we had a lot more sex.
So one chapter in my memoir will be called: "I finally lost my virginity in Hangzhou."
The final time I saw Trish was October 2018 when I visited her school in Dalian, and I could write a book just about those 2 days.
Since that time we’ve exchanged a few WeChat messages, and obviously our life went in different directions, but I will always have a special place in my heart for her.
Anyways, there are several interesting experiences I had with girls after Trish, but those are stories for another time.
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